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This is also something we will be doing a lot. We hope that what you see here inspires you to do something…it doesn’t matter to us what–in this case, it could be posting a comment about one of the little things in your relationship, doing a little thing for your partner, thanking your partner for a little thing they did, sharing our site with a friend, or anything else you’re inspired to do…

Whatever it is, thanks for passing it on!! Happy Spring and have a great weekend!!

 
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I am not much of a morning person. In fact, left to my own devices, I would stay up every night until at least 2 a.m. and then get up around 10 a.m.  Unfortunately, my life does not function well on that timeline.  My struggle with mornings started when I was in high school and my mother used to wake me for swim team at 5:30 a.m. These days, when the alarm goes off at 6:30 a.m., I struggle even more to open my eyes and journey to the shower… I slowly come out of my fog as the water wakes me enough to receive my morning cup of coffee from my partner…

Ever since we started living together over two years ago, my partner has brought me the gift of coffee every morning we are together.  It is such a simple act but my partner is endlessly amused by my unwavering daily delight! He does not get the impact this simple act of generosity has on me every day…or does he?  Every morning as I hug my coffee cup, I experience the joy of our partnership and wonder what gift can I bring to my partner that will delight him for the day? 

Performing simple acts of kindness for each other makes such a difference.  Do you treat your partner like your favorite house guest every day? 

Try the gift of coffee….

A simple rule to say hello and goodbye, no matter what mood you’re in, has reinvigorated ours.

I wish I could say that I always knew how to leave work at work or not take home the ramblings of my mind during my car ride home but there are moments when I just walk in the door frustrated at life, my limitations, pretty much everything. Having Kelly say something as simple as “Hey, ya gonna kiss me hello?” when I walk in the door, can bring me back to what’s really important and what I really care about. Even if it doesn’t happen right away, the momentum of my downward spiral is slowed and I can alter my path, even for a moment.

It’s funny, even a simple, “What’s up baby?” reminds me that someone else does care and despite what I might think at any given moment, I don’t have to go it alone.

I’m a much sought after Ivy-League educated PhD who has traveled the world with her work. I am Filipino-American raised in Brooklyn NY by two physicians as parents. I’ll be 42 this year and none of these attributes prepared me for the first fight with my new husband that made me think, “THIS is not what I signed up for!!” APRIL FOOLS!

I will have been married for four years this May and it’s been quite a ride. My marriage has helped me to expand and grow in so many unexpected ways and I can look back and say I wouldn’t trade in any of it…although that was definitely not always the case.

I can’t wait to see what this blog will do for our marriage and what I hope it will provide for people across the spectrum–those planning on getting married, those newly married, or those together forever. I look forward to hearing from any and all of you and engaging in this rich conversation. I especially look forward to sharing my marriage in all its glory and occasional horror. I see it as me truly becoming we(eeee)!

Heartbroken, but mostly embarrassed and confused, I am sitting in my therapist’s office. How can this be happening to me? I am a successful executive in one of the world’s leading publicly traded software companies, I am a nationally ranked tri-athlete, I have a beautiful home on a lake, I am a self made millionaire…

Why is my marriage falling apart? Why am I estranged from my family in Canada? Why do I feel lonely in a room full of friends? Why do I never feel good enough? Can I stay in a marriage with a man I do not trust?

The key that unlocked my heart was when my therapist asked, “What do you want from you father?” Oh, that is simple I said, “For him to love me the way that I am and the way that I am not”. “Great,” she said. “Can you do the same thing for him?” The resounding “Hell no” answer that I provided was the beginning of my journey into love, marriage, partnership.

Thanks for joining us in Me2Wee! as we explore the roller coaster of committed relationships. Grace and I want to share our journeys into our committed relationships, we want to talk about the embarrassing fights, the temper tantrums, the giving up, the greatness of staying, the witnessing of another human and to be so witness. I want your partnership as I explore: Can I love him the way that he is, and the way he is not….